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So, you’re on the spectrum?  Don’t panic!

If you have a diagnosis of being on the spectrum, or if you suspect you are on the spectrum... don’t panic! Some people are happy and relieved to receive a diagnosis.  If so, good for you, that’s great. I wasn’t happy; I was terrified.


However, I’m not terrified any more and it really is completely fine.


Being on the spectrum is a completely normal part of the human diversity spectrum, and this just means you have a few things in common with the rest of the 1% of the population who are also on the spectrum.  These 1% are one good source of potential friends; you are not alone and there are definitely people out there just like you (you may have to look a wee bit to find them, but they are certainly there). 


Many adults on the spectrum live independently, have jobs, get married, have children, so this diagnosis is not a limit on what you can or cannot do in your life.


Many people on the spectrum do not fit society’s stereotype of what an autistic person is.  So, this diagnosis does not define you as the stereotype. 


Many people on the spectrum do not have a diagnosis because no-one has ever noticed they are not quite the same as the majority of the population.


The people who love you do not want you to be “normal” in society’s sense of the word. 


You, like everyone else, are a valuable human being with a special and unique contribution to make to the world. Be proud of who you are. Being on the spectrum makes you different from the norm and therefore inherently interesting, no matter what anyone else may have told you.


Try not to take the medical labels personally. I got all upset by the term “severe impairment in social interaction”, but then the lovely Charlene Tait (an autism professional) told me that I didn’t have one! 


If you have a special interest, you can use it for fun and to relieve stress, use it to help you learn other skills (my interest in trampolining prompted me to start using the telephone to form a holiday club and organise lessons) and perhaps develop it into a career.


Click here to read about some advantages of being on the Spectrum.

To contact, e-mail: debi@aspiedebi.com